What are your core values?

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Do you wonder who you really are? If you were to die today what would people remember of you?

One way you can know yourself, and for others to really know you, is to realize your “Core Values”
How do you know what you are, what you believe?
A Core Value:
• Describes you, not as an adjective but like a mirror.
• Allows you to successfully problem solve on your own.
• Guides you in a positive way of life, as a reliable and fixed constant guidepost.

So, try to elevate your sense of self awareness and consciousness. In doing this you may become more fulfilled and indeed happy with yourself.

 

Waiting

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WAITING

The verb to wait has a great deal of meaning, it can be defined and used as “to wait, especially for a short while” and synonyms are “hang on”, “hold your horses” and “be patient”, or it can mean “to continue on a course of action or direction or maintain something such as a set of principles or a particular state of mind when we reflect upon that”.

In any event, people spend time, energy and emotional expense in “waiting”. How you wait, whether patiently or impatiently can make an impression upon your state of mind, and can influence how others view you as well.

Rather than struggling with some emotions, even anger when one is waiting, think how you could pass the time in a peaceful and meaningful way. This may not mean staring intently at your smart phone, talking on the phone or being “plugged in”. Waiting provides you an opportunity to slow down, look around, soak in some of the ambiance which is otherwise passing you by, the smell of roses, as well other smells, sights, sounds and impressions.

Effective Tool for Successfully Navigating Your Past – “Forgiveness”

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By David Pavek

There may be people who have said or done things to you in the past which hurt. These actions and words can be some of the most painful events in your life. They can include all aspects of life. It can be a minor insult about your weight. It might be a terrible lie told by your spouse, or some form of treachery by a family member, brother, child, or parent.

No matter what the actions or words were, to move forward, you need to look back on these actions. To be vivid and clear, your observation of the past should be honest, assessing blame and fault where appropriate and fair. What role did other people have? What role did you play? Continue reading →

Keeping an Eye in the Rear View Mirror of Your Past

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by David Pavek

Examining your past, David PavekIf you are honest with yourself, you’ll want to take a close view of your past. Your perspective and clarity of the past will be enhanced with honesty.  The truth of who did what to whom, when, and for what reason remains elusive.  With honesty, your vision of the past improves.  With this clarity, you’ll make accurate conclusions about what and why things happened, sometimes you’ll surprise yourself by taking responsibility when needed.

Remarkably, as you truly see the truth of the past, blame and finger pointing become irrelevant, and are replaced with calm resolution to use the lessons of the past for a better tomorrow.  Honesty and truth do in fact “set you free,” and send you on your way to becoming centered and balanced in your life.

Therefore, you can consider centering as the action of improving your vision – of your past, your future, and ultimately yourself.

  • Start by being reflective; in turn it will become a way of life.
  • Be absolutely honest with yourself.
  • Try to forgive.
  • Avoid being judgmental.
  • Commit to the importance of love.
  • Avoid having the past manage you with hatred, fear, shame, or hopelessness.
  • Recall and discern events looking to find the truth, which may be inconvenient.
  • Seek clarity about your past choices.
  • Look at your actions from your past.
  • Take personal responsibility for your choices which were wrong.
  • Forgive yourself.

Maybe you have tried to manage your past.  You may have been on such a quest for some time. However, when it comes to memories, you may believe that you are not capable of coming to terms with your past.  Remember that we all have made bad choices in the past.  We all have the baggage which comes with living.  Sometimes the consequences of life are overwhelming to the point that we cannot overcome the pain and discomfort.

You can’t change the past; we all know that.  But you can decide how to use your past.  It’s time to stop running from yourself.  Until you take the time to reflect and manage your past, you’ll never be free from the pain and discomfort.  You’ll also understand you can’t plan for the future if you are a slave to your past.  Does this sound familiar to you in your life?

Look to Your Left and Right (You are Not Alone)

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not alone, David Pavekby David Pavek

As we work to be centered in our lives, at the very same time, other are looking at their memories and mirrors  as well. Just as everyone is equal in that they put on one pant leg at a time, take comfort from the fact that everyone else must look at their past as they try to live a balanced life. The people who appear to live in a state of inner peace and tranquility had to engage in retrospection. As another writer on this topic states:

One thing you begin taking for granted is that every person you meet who seems to have courage, dignity, compassion, and humility has experienced failure and weakness and shame. So don’t be an egomaniac and feel like you’re a worse one than the next. Everybody’s got stuff. Our spiritual victory rests only on what we are willing to do with it.

Bo Lozoff, Deep and Simple, p. 28.

If you have been looking for calm and tranquility in your life, but you have not found it yet, don’t be disappointed.  We all have a past, and we all have to work to manage it. It is likely that even when you start to really look hard at the past, your vision of your memories still causes pain and hurt. It will help to know that we all have such memories. However, the process of reflection is a big part of the process of balance.

From this balance, you’ll find the strength and capacity to look harder, and you’ll see with even more clarity.. You’ll find the center of your emotions and your awareness. In short, your efforts to manage your past are going to make you feel centered and prepared for inner peace.

 

 

How Are You Trending?

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by David Pavek

Trending traits, David Pavek

In the news, we always hear about how people, economies, sports franchises, or political candidates are “trending”. They are getting better, faster, bigger, or bankrupt. The same verb applies to all of us. How are you trending?

Are you trending to some thoughts and feelings more than others? Some types of thoughts reflect that you are content and pleased with life. These thoughts empower you as well. Here are some examples of the positive thoughts, and a commitment to life in green, and those thoughts from which you may want to trend away in red:

Trending traits, David Pavek

There may be consequences for your previous conduct and words which you are now trending away, and wanting to avoid. Can you now see those consequences more clearly? There are choices and decisions which you made that are painful, shameful, and emotionally difficult.

You have to identify and resolve your most personal pain from the past. With enough forgiveness and tolerance, and a commitment to love, you can heal the pain of those past mistakes.